An ego or egotism is the drive to maintain and enhance favourable views of oneself, and generally features an inflated opinion of one’s personal features and importance. An ego will include intellectual, physical, social and other over estimations. The egotist has an overwhelming sense of the centrality of the ‘Me’, that is to say of their personal qualities. Egotism means placing oneself at the core of one’s world with no or little concern for others and their well-being, including those loved or considered as “close,” in any other terms except those set by the egotist. Bottom line: your ego is “loving your self” – narcissism.
We’ve all been there at some point in our life. Some of might be shaking your heads, but reality is it happens to all of us at some point in our lives. We’re human after all. Some of us experience a bloated ego more frequently and in greater proportions than others. Your ego might come out when you get the guy of dreams, that job promotion you’ve put all that hard work in for, you’re driving a shiny new Porsche and/or you had a really good year for your investments. We often float in out of this “egotist state of mind” as things go well in our lives, and we fill up with pride and joy. Our head becomes like a balloon. We often can’t see it – but others notice it.
Having an ego is a trap that we must learn to recognize and put an end to, before it causes problems for us. A bloated ego won’t help you get the job you want, the partner you need, friends that are good for you, the respect you desire or happiness in life. It’ll bring you down, hurt others, push people away and set you off track to the person you were meant to be. Getting what you need in life comes through hard work, humility and confidence. How are those qualities different than an ego? The dictionary has a ridiculous translation for humility: admiration from others, genuine attention and positive impact on your community will follow. It all starts with recognizing you have an ego, keeping it in check and not letting your ego be the king of you. When ego is lost, limit is lost. You become infinite, kind, beautiful. Be the king of your ego.